Colic: What It Is and How to Manage It.
As a new parent, you’ve probably heard the word “colic” tossed around, and if your little one is dealing with it, you’re likely feeling a mix of confusion, frustration, and exhaustion. We get it—it can be tough. Colic is one of those experiences that many parents go through, but it can feel isolating when your baby is crying for what seems like no reason.
So, let’s take a deep breath together and break it down. What is colic? Why does it happen? And most importantly, how can you manage it so everyone in your family can feel a little more peaceful?
Let’s talk about it.
1. What Is Colic?
Colic is a term used to describe excessive crying in an otherwise healthy baby. The crying is often intense, and it tends to happen for no obvious reason. It usually begins in the first few weeks of life and often peaks at about 6 to 8 weeks, with symptoms typically subsiding by 3 to 4 months of age.
What you might be feeling:
Feeling helpless when your baby is inconsolable.
A sense of frustration as you try everything but nothing seems to calm them.
Worrying that something might be wrong with your baby.
First, let us reassure you: colic is common, and your baby is likely perfectly healthy. But, it doesn’t make it any easier when you’re in the middle of it.
2. Common Symptoms of Colic
The main symptom of colic is excessive crying, but there are a few other signs to look out for. Colic is often described as a "rule of threes" — babies may cry for at least three hours a day, three times a week, for three weeks or longer.
What you might notice:
Frequent, intense crying: Your baby cries for long periods, often in the evening.
Pulling their legs toward their belly: This can be a sign of gas or discomfort.
Clenched fists: They might appear to be in distress.
Flushed face: You might notice a red or flushed face from crying.
Difficulty calming down: No matter what you do, your baby’s crying doesn’t seem to stop.
It’s important to remember that while the crying is difficult to endure, your baby isn’t crying to upset you. It’s their way of expressing distress.
3. Possible Causes of Colic
The exact cause of colic is still unknown, but there are a few theories that might explain why it happens. It’s often a combination of factors that contribute to this crying phase.
Some possible causes include:
Immature digestive system: Babies’ digestive systems are still developing, and this can cause discomfort, gas, or indigestion.
Sensitivity to stimulation: Some babies may be more sensitive to lights, sounds, or touch, and this can lead to overstimulation, which can make them cry more.
Gas or reflux: Some babies might experience discomfort from gas or acid reflux.
Parental stress or anxiety: Babies are highly sensitive to their caregivers' emotions, so if you’re stressed or anxious, your baby might be picking up on that, which can make them more unsettled.
Overstimulation or under-stimulation: Some babies have a harder time adjusting to the world around them, and they may cry when they’re overstimulated or not getting enough interaction.
Again, these are just theories. It’s still not totally clear why colic happens in some babies and not others.
4. Managing Colic: What You Can Do
Managing colic can be challenging, but there are ways to ease your baby’s discomfort. While there’s no magical solution, you can try a few things to help calm your baby and give yourself some relief.
Here are some strategies that might help:
Hold and comfort your baby: Try rocking, swaddling, or holding your baby in a calm, comforting manner. Sometimes just the act of holding them can help soothe.
Try white noise: Babies often find white noise calming because it mimics the sounds they heard in the womb. A fan, soft music, or a white noise machine can help.
Gently massage their belly: Massaging your baby’s tummy in a gentle, circular motion might help relieve gas or discomfort.
Offer a pacifier: Sucking on a pacifier can be soothing for some babies.
Check their feeding position: Sometimes babies swallow air while feeding, which can cause gas. Make sure your baby is latched correctly or try feeding them in a more upright position.
Take breaks when you need to: If the crying is overwhelming, it’s okay to step away for a few minutes. Place your baby in a safe space (like their crib) and take a breather.
If you’re feeling like you’re at your wit’s end, don’t hesitate to reach out to your healthcare provider for additional support or guidance. You can absolutely always call us as well! You’re doing an amazing job, even if it feels hard right now.
Colic is tough, there’s no sugarcoating it. It’s emotionally draining and can feel like you’re out of options. But know this: colic doesn’t last forever, and it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong as a parent. This phase is temporary, and soon enough, your little one will outgrow it.
In the meantime, be gentle with yourself. You’re not alone in this. At En Route Doulas, we’re here to support you. Whether you need someone to talk to, ideas for soothing your baby, or just a listening ear, we’re in your corner every step of the way.